Myth 4: Marriage is about procreation & LGBT couples can’t have kids, so they shouldn’t marry

The early Christians had discussed whether marriage between a man and a woman should be endorsed, and despite many being against such matrimony, it was finally recognized under the church as a sacrament for the sole purpose of procreation.

So the question is, should we disallow straight couples from marriage if they are infertile or don’t want children? And does adoption count? Because about 30% of female same-sex couples and about 15% of male same-sex couples are currently raising children.

Many opposite-sex couples decide to tie the knot to provide their children with the legal security, stability and social recognition that comes with having married parents. Similarly to any other couple, gay individuals can be exceptional parents, with adoption and fostering agencies even stating that gay couple’s understanding of bigotry and prejudice gives them additional strength when helping vulnerable children who have been through tough periods in their life.

Also, the 2011 census showed 6,300 children living in same-sex couple families. Although this only makes up for 1000 of all children in couple families, it is definitely increasing, and with the legalisation of same-sex marriage, such legal and social benefits will flow to the children of gay and lesbian couples as well as to the couples themselves.

Over 30 years of research reveal that children who are raised by gay and lesbian parents have demonstrated “resilience with regard to social, psychological and sexual health despite economic and legal disparities,” as well as social stigma. Many studies have proven that a children’s well-being is affected primarily by the positive relationship they have with their parents, their parent’s sense of competency and security, and the presence of social and economic support for the family rather than the parent’s gender or sexual orientation.

So stating that gay and lesbians are unable to have kids and therefore shouldn’t be recognised under this institution is, without a doubt, unjust.

And due to the fact that all children benefit from being part of a stable, loving family, this right and opportunity should also be extended to all adopted children, right?

EJ